An inherent element of being human is our need for emotional contact and it is integral to our Being. The need for shared commitment increases and we form a relationship as a couple. With time, seismic changes occur in the couple and inclemency results. Some get resolved over time, some fester and a few couples remain aggrieved, discontent, implacably hostile and shriek for separation. Couples therapy offers a steadying influence where the differences can be expressed, the bruising conflicts opened up for locating patterns and clarity, and perspectives and possibilities could emerge.
THE BROAD IDEA:
CAN THE COUPLE FIND A WAY TO STAY
PRIOR TO THE ALTERNATE OPTION
THE EVANESCENT LOVE
Couples form a breeding ground for conflict (not all, but a few). Relationships begin with excitement, novelty, passion but with passage of time a ‘taken for granted’ aspect creeps in due to familiarity and a perception of security. Disparity in domestic chores, financial anxieties, social commitments, imbalance in responsibilities, health anomalies, interference from extraneous people etc. begins the melt-down. A form of laziness engulfs the couple and they somehow stop going for the zestful. Arguments begin and drains the relationship soil of vital ingredients which eventually escalates till the conflict engulfs the couple. Communication becomes laboured, stressful and intimacy is the first casualty.
MALADAPTIVE PATTERNS EMERGE WHICH FURTHER FUELS NEGATIVE INTERACTION CYCLES IN THE COUPLE
PRIOR TO THE RELATIONSHIP'S RAPID DECELERATION,
IT MUST BE RECOGNISED, APPREHENDED AND REMEDIED
COUPLES THERAPY IS A SUGGESTIVE MEND TO REGAIN THE RELATIONSHIP ROBUSTNESS BEFORE IT BECOMES IRREPARABLE
the view from
Unhappy partners as they remain entangled in living and relating, they assign blame for their feelings, frustrations and despair to the other. The therapist offers this third mind, an external lens, using which all three of them can view the couple’s experience, worldview and respective situatedness in it from a different perspective.
Human errors are inextricable aspects of our existence and couples too cannot escape it. Partners living together with shared values, beliefs, convictions, attitudes and commonalities to a great extent will reinvent themselves but there will be errors & distancing elements that will creep into a relationship. Alongside contentment that couples experience, there will emerge missteps, discordant notes, and divergences in thinking as well as respective approach to life.
THIS ALTERS MEANING AND PARTNERS BEGIN TO MISFIRE AND DIMINISH EACH OTHER EITHER THROUGH ARGUMENTS OR INDIFFERENCE.
THE EXISTENTIAL BEARING
Revisiting each partner’s worldview, dilemmas, paradoxes, demands, expectations, sense of entitlement and how it affects their relationship needs an existential inquest.
THE WAY WE APPROACH COUPLE’S THERAPY OPENS UP THIS PHILOSOPHICAL ASPECT
Couples fall apart then come back together and keep doing it till one day they are unable to and from the inseparable they descend into the unbearable. The fall from affection to resignation seems precipitous but there were noticeable cues all along.
IT IS POSSIBLE TO RESTORE THE RELATIONSHIP IF BOTH PARTNERS ARE ABLE TO EMPATHETICALLY GLIMPSE EACH OTHER’S EXPERIENCE.
COUPLES THERAPY AUGMENTS THIS PROCESS.
AWARENESS, ADMISSION & REPARATION IS KEY
WHAT YOU NEED TO KNOW ABOUT COUPLE'S THERAPY
STRAIN, BITTERNESS AND DISCORD BETWEEN PARTNERS OCCURRING FOR PROLONGED PERIODS OF TIME EVENTUATES FROM COMMUNICATION BREAKDOWN, NEGATIVE RECURRENT PATTERNS OF THOUGHTS & BEHAVIOUR AND AN ADAMANT PRESERVATION OF ONE’S OWN STAND, VALUES & ATTITUDES.
HEADSTRIDE PSYCHOTHERAPY MODEL, APPERCEPTIVE FORMULATIONS AND PHENOMENOLOGICAL INVESTIGATIONS INTO OUR CLIENT’S EXPERIENCE OFFER A COMPREHENSIVE FRAMEWORK FOR OUR CLIENT TO REVISIT THESE
PATTERNS, STAND, VALUES, ATTITUDES,
AND MAKE ACCEPTABLE ALTERATIONS.
SOME ASPECTS OF MEASUREMENT
CONFLICT, AT THE HEART OF STRIFE
HEADSTRIDE CONDUCTS THE PROGRAM 'REDISCOVERING AGREEMENT' THAT DELVES INTO THE CONCEPT OF CONFLICT, WHY IT OCCURS AND HOW TO REINSTATE AGREEMENT.
COUPLES COULD BENEFIT FROM THIS WORKSHOP IN TERMS OF UNDERSTANDING THE CONCERNS AND WAY OUT OF CONFLICTS.
A SHIFT THAT OPENS UP
Perhaps some of us may not want change but let us arrive at that stance after we experience an alternate way of Being. Change will expose us to anxiety but it is also the vehicle through with we reach possibilities.
CONFLICTING COUPLES TAKE A FIXED STANCE AND ONLY ABLE TO SEE THEIR POINT OF VIEW.
THE EMPATHIC STANCE TO UNDERSTAND THE OTHER IS LOST IN THE ARGUMENT .
WITHOUT AN INSIGHT INTO THEIR JOINT EXPERIENCE THERE IS NO ALTERATION IN VIEW.
REDISCOVERING AGREEMENT OFFERS THIS RE-ATTUNEMENT