FINDING THE PATH
IT TAKES COURAGE TO CHANGE AND PURSUE THAT WHICH COULD LEAD TO THE MAGNIFICENT
THE EXISTENTIAL POSIT
From an existential perspective there is no meaning out there other than the one that we endow life with, hence one can live life in any manner that one wishes. There are no value judgments whatsoever over one’s way of being, hence whether one selects a path or just decides to live moment to moment in wild abandon is one’s own choice.
Since life is meaningless and since one can select any path (and not a prescribed one) the argument ought to stop there but if we were to press on for more philosophical plumbing, here is another view
I AM FREE AND THAT IS WHY I AM LOST
- Franz Kafka
...... RATIONALE FOR A PATH
BOREDOM IS A PHENOMENON AND SADLY HUMAN BEINGS ARE NOT DESIGNED FOR HIBERNATION LIKE SOME ANIMALS.
If one is not being provided for (through inherited wealth, royalties, lottery, parental support, marital security etc.) one is forced to establish one’s survival and has to get out there and work to earn a living. We know that. Survival is the primary motive but man also has a thinking brain and needs stimulation, challenges, admiration, appreciation and validation.
THE ABOVE, FORCES ONE TO SEEK A PATH BEYOND SURVIVAL: PERSONAL FULFILLMENT
However many continue to blur the lines and stay in survival mode.
WHAT IF THERE IS A PATH BEYOND THE SURVIVAL PATH?
COST OF NOT FINDING THE PATH?
LIFE POSES A UNIQUE, INSURMOUNTABLE PROBLEM, IT IS LIMITED!
Had it been infinite, nothing becomes urgent, there is no need to immediately acquire the education degrees or expertise, there is no pressure on beginning that sport or music lessons early, there is no need to embark upon any project exigently. There would be plenty of time to do things but life is finite hence time is of essence. One can keep experimenting in life regardless of age and this in itself is a thrill and many do. They redefine their path, courageously tread upon it, make necessary tweaks and even alter their path completely. This is fine. There comes a time in life when even the selected path becomes mundane, unvaried and boring. This is fine too. A new path is determined, pursuit continues and it remains iterative.
STAYING UPON A SELECTED PATH THAT ONE DOES NOT LIKE, NOT KNOWING WHAT ELSE TO PURSUE AND THE UNBEARABILTY OF THE SITUATION NEEDS REFLECTIVE PROCESSING.
THE COST OF NOT FINDING A NEW PATH AND STAYING IN THE MESS CAN BE COLOSSAL.
ALL OF US HAVE BEEN THERE, AT VARIED TIMES & DURATION.
IT ALTERS MOODS, CREATES DYSFUNCTIONAL ANXIETY,
DEPRESSION AND MEANINGLESSNESS.
Existential boredom, begins gradually, finds nourishment in inactivity and transitions into a killer.
AT THE ROOT OF BOREDOM IS THE INABILITY TO SAY YES TO THE UNFAMILIAR.
THE 'NO' KEEPS US IN THE FAMILIAR
THE 'NO' HERE SIGNIFIES,
THE NO TO 'DOING' , THE 'NO' TO PROJECTS, GOALS, TASKS, ACTIVITY.
BUT HOW CAN WE SAY YES AND LEAP INTO ACTIVITY WITHOUT KNOWING A PATH ?
THROUGH THE MODALITY OF COACHING
Coaching invokes in the client; reflective thinking, a change in their perception and concurrently their worldview. At Headstride, we beget a phenomenological examination of our client’s values, attitudes, beliefs, opinions and convictions thereby arriving at a co-constituted content that is available for client’s reflection. This ‘need to change’ may initially lie latent in the client hence the despair, but once awareness is heightened, the need to change becomes a conscious project for the client.
FOR CHANGE TO HAPPEN,
CONSCIOUS INTENT IS A PRE-REQUISITE
AT HEADSTRIDE, WE WORK ON THE MIND ELEMENTS
TO INVOKE CONSCIOUS INTENT IN OUR CLIENTS
Let us jointly work together to find your path
HOW TO RECREATE MEANING?
HOW TO GENERATE CHOICES ?
HOW TO MAKE A START AMIDST CHOICES?
HOW TO WORK AROUND HINDRANCES?
HOW TO SUSTAIN PURSUIT?
WHY HAVE SUCH A PROGRAM?
Maslow’s ‘hierarchy of needs’ explicates the ‘physiological to the self-actualisation needs’ and how human beings navigate amidst it. A need is more exigent, demanding and important for survival. One can easily specify one’s basal need as in food, shelter, sleep etc. but in addition to this there are other needs in us such as recognition, honour, acceptance, love, compassion, independence and so forth which adds to our overall well-being. Many of these needs are met in life but many remain unmet. Unmet needs are conserved as desires in one’s mind.
A desire is a wishful longing or craving and is the starting point for achievement. Desire by itself is no good, many have died with unmet desires. When desire is reasonably roused it becomes intent. Now one doesn’t just desire, one intends to pursue that which one desires. Intent is stronger than desire, there is a determinedness about it. Mere intent is also not good enough. Between one’s intention to pursue and actually accomplishing something there is a huge chasm. Intent can be raised and sustained if there is a compelling path and this path has to be found or created.
'RAISING INTENT' program augments our clients in finding /creating this path through focused attention, goals setting for direction, strategy for correction and forming empowering habits for execution.
We augment the process from desire to intent and then raise intent levels and guide it towards accomplishment.
RAISED INTENT IS THE FUEL AMONGST OTHERS THAT DRIVES ACCOMPLISHMENT.
Aspiration and ambition is in no way superior to contentment. A person can feel contended wherever he/she is in life without the ‘obtain more’ philosophy to feel fulfilled. It is an individual choice.
THEN WHY DO WE NEED TO RAISE INTENT?
When there is desire or yearning with thoughts such as ‘it would be nice to become that, have that, experience that’,
then one needs to seek for a compelling intent.
ONCE INTENT IS STRONG, THE STRIVING AND FIRE IN THE BELLY GETS INVOKED.
THE SENSE OF SELF
HOW THE SELF & PERSONALITIES ARE FORMED
THE EFFECTS OF OPERANT CONDITIONING & THE WAY IT INFLUENCES INDIVIDUAL DRIVE.
IS THERE ANYTHING CALLED THE SELF AT ALL?
DOES THE SELF RESIDE INSIDE THE MIND?
CAN THE SELF BE FOUND WITH DEEP REFLECTIVE INTROSPECTION/SEARCH OR IS THE SELF SOME KIND OF EPHEMERAL PHENOMENON?
Is there an 'inside out' vantage point i.e. a self sitting inside the mind looking at the outside world and then comprehending the world. These aspects needs critical considerations. People often construe a sense of self, attach a meaning of 'personality' to it and behave as if there is a permanence to it. 'This personality now determines what they can and cannot do.
A PATH TO TRAVERSE CAN BE FOUND ONLY AFTER THIS CRUCIAL UNDERSTANDING OF OUR SENSE OF SELF AND THE WAY WE CONSTRUE WHAT IS OUR PERSONALITY.
SHAPING & SETTING GOALS
GOAL MAPPING RITUALS
GOAL MAPPING IS CREATING THE VISUAL BOARD TO SEE THAT WHOLE PATH, THE WAY THE RESOURCES NEEDS TO REMAIN ENMESHED, ASPECTS THAT CAN CATALYSE ACCOMPLISHMENT AND QUICKLY CREATING THE FIRST WIN.
TIMELINE IS THE PREDOMINANT ASPECT IN CREATING RAPID CHANGE
THE FIRST WIN SHATTERS ONE'S LIMITING BELIEFS, CREATES EXCITEMENT AND GOADS ONE ONTO THE NEXT GOAL. ACHIEVEMENT CAN BECOME SUBCONSCIOUS OVER A PERIOD OF TIME BUT GOAL MAPPING IS THE BLUEPRINT THAT MAKES IT POSSIBLE.
CREATING SECOND NATURE
Habits bind us. Regardless of the dysfunctional nature of a few habits, we keep indulging in it, foster ineffectual thoughts and unable to liberate from it. Goal-less rumination becomes pervasive and the motive force to effect a change is lacking. With passage of time desires mount and accumulate into a more intense wish list.
CREATING EMPOWERING HABITS IS THE KEY ELEMENT HERE IN SETTING AND ATTAINING GOALS & DESIRES, TOWRDS RAISING ONE’ INTENT TO ACCOMPLISH.
REFORMATION OF DISEMPOWERING PATTERNS
STRUCTURAL ALTERATION IN THOUGHTS
SUCCEEDING IN SUCCESSIVE GOALS
FINDING A PATH TO TRAVERSE UPON WITH GUSTO
RE-ESTABLISING PURPOSE & MEANING FROM A RE-CAST SELF
INSTITUTE A GOAL & ACTION ORIENTED BEHAVIOUR
REDEFINING FAITH WITH RESPECT TO OWN GOALS
UNDERSTANDING A DETAILED GOAL SETTING PROCESS
GOAL SEGMENTATION & MAPPING
HEIGHTENED FOCUS AND ATTENTIVENESS TOWARDS ACHIEVEMENT
GRASP THE PSYCHOLOGY OF HABIT FORMING
FORGE A RAPID EXECUTION NEUROPATH
GO INWARDS, REFLECT
RE-EXAMINE BELIEFS, WRECK LIMITATIONS, EXPLORE REALM OF THE POSSIBLE, EXPAND TOLERANCE TO STRETCH, FEEL THE FEAR, MANAGE THE ANXIETY & REACH SOMEWHERE MAGNIFICENT OR DIE TRYING.
OUR OTHER COACHING PROGRAM
ABOUT SELF & ACCOMPLISHMENT
FOR THE MORE INITIATED
WELCOME TO OUR APPERCEPTIVE COACHING
WHAT EVOKES OUR
Why do people find it difficult to select a path?
Even if they find a path why do they falter upon it?
What is the psychology of change?
What sustains pursuit?
OUR COACHING APPROACH
Work on individual Apperceptive frame.
Help redefine & select the path.
Delve deeper into the barriers & thinking traps.
Augment the journey through goals.